> For the complete documentation index, see [llms.txt](https://en.chanyuan8.org/llms.txt). Markdown versions of documentation pages are available by appending `.md` to page URLs; this page is available as [Markdown](https://en.chanyuan8.org/friendship/when-you-cling-to-the-correctness-of-your-viewpoint-contradictions-arise.md). # When You Cling to the Correctness of Your Viewpoint, Contradictions Arise May 29, 2023 Have you ever experienced this: working together with others, facing a decision, where you staunchly support Plan A while others insist on Plan B? If both refuse to compromise, conflicts arise. Anger and negative emotions swirl like a tornado, leaving both parties feeling depressed and joyless for days on end. Why is the divorce rate so high nowadays? One primary reason is when each side believes they are right and adamantly refuses to yield, eventually leading to parting ways. In business partnerships or companies, closures often arise due to partners rigidly adhering to their views, refusing to compromise. Even between nations, divergent viewpoints without compromise escalate to disagreements or even cold wars. Wherever people gather, whether in partnerships of two or collaborations involving hundreds or even tens of thousands, if everyone clings to their own views without compromise, conflicts and clashes are inevitable. Therefore, we find that those fervently clinging to their viewpoints are the ones who spark conflicts and discord, preventing themselves and their collaborators from working harmoniously together. From this, we can conclude that those who cling to their viewpoints lack understanding, reason, open-mindedness, and possess low emotional intelligence. The ones who make others happy, joyful, and free while working together are the ones with high emotional intelligence, the ones who understand reason, the ones who comprehend life's principles, the extraordinary individuals. How can one ensure that others are happy, joyous and free while working with him? In a task, whoever is responsible has the final say. Even if you are right a thousand times and the person in charge is wrong a thousand times, you must abide by their decision. No doubts, no entanglements, no silent protests, no passive resistance—just wholehearted cooperation. This leads to mutual happiness. If there is no designated leader in a collaboration, when someone proposes a plan instead of discussing it, respond with, "Alright, we'll do it your way!" This avoids the birth of conflict, and if things go wrong, the one suggesting the plan shoulders the blame. Respecting others means not clinging obstinately to one's own opinions. Insisting on others following your ideas is disrespect. Consider, when you cease to exist, the Earth will continue turning, and others will go on living. Would you still cling to your viewpoints? When working with others, if you can make them happy, you're someone who understands life's principles, an extraordinary individual, someone who comprehends reason—a seed of paradise. Try and see if you're someone who brings joy to others. When someone says, "Dog excrement smells lovely," if you immediately counter, "No, it stinks," you're rigid and lack emotional intelligence. However, if you follow up with, "Yes, indeed, dog excrement smells much better than night-blooming jasmine," you possess high emotional intelligence and understanding. When someone says, "The grassland is excellent, but the forest is not," or "Putting on shoes before socks looks better," or "Slimmer women are more sensual," or "Being a son is much better than being a grandfather," how do you respond? --- # Agent Instructions This documentation is published with GitBook. GitBook is the documentation platform designed so that both humans and AI agents can read, navigate, and reason over technical content effectively. Learn more at gitbook.com. ## Querying This Documentation If you need additional information that is not directly available in this page, you can query the documentation dynamically by asking a question. Perform an HTTP GET request on the current page URL with the `ask` query parameter, and the optional `goal` query parameter: ``` GET https://en.chanyuan8.org/friendship/when-you-cling-to-the-correctness-of-your-viewpoint-contradictions-arise.md?ask=&goal= ``` `ask` is the immediate question: it should be specific, self-contained, and written in natural language. `goal` is optional and describes the broader end goal you are ultimately trying to accomplish on behalf of the user. GitBook uses it to tailor the answer towards what is most useful for that goal. The response will contain a direct answer to the question and relevant excerpts and sources from the documentation. Use this mechanism when the answer is not explicitly present in the current page, you need clarification or additional context, or you want to retrieve related documentation sections.